Finding a church that fits you seems to be becoming more of a challenge these days. I have been attending services at several local churches trying to find a church family I can feel comfortable with. I am looking for a church family is is acceptable to people of all abilities. There are some churches that I’ve felt really unwelcome at. I’m not sure why either.
I know when choosing a church for me it has to be just the perfect size. I can’t do too small and I can’t go with too big. My preferred number is about 200-300 church goers. I am heavily involved in music programs and would like to be able to play trombone at church. The 200-300 number is good for me because if you go any smaller it’s hard to put together a good choir, orchestra, and worship team.
However, if it gets too much bigger I feel overwhelmed by the amount of people and can become uncomfortable due to social skill deficits I have. I’ve worked hard to overcome those social skill deficits with my social thinking and cognitive thinking. It’s not been an easy task but it is something that I think anyone on the autism spectrum can do.
There was a time when I didn’t think I could overcome the odds either. Everything in life was frustrating. School, work, and more. I ended up having to work really hard to fit in. I’m glad I did because as I feel more comfortable with myself things in life are really starting to go well. I’m ready for an amazing fall/winter this year. I’m hoping for a lot of snow. Be comfortable in your own skin and good things will come to you.