I sat there glued to the sofa wondering what would happen next. A member of a church took a priest to court and asked for a restraining order. The Judge wanted to know his reason and he said that when he went to confession, the priest asked him to stop doing what he was doing and wouldn’t leave him alone. When he went to confession the man didn’t seem to mind so why was he so paranoid now?
Priests are bound by the “Seal of the Sacrament” which forbids them from revealing what they hear in confession. If a priest wants to keep his job he better put up and shut up. However, what I found out was quite disturbing. The priest was willing to give up everything because he was going to divulge what the man was doing and wouldn’t stop. At that point some witnesses were brought in and another priest said he would lose the right to hold mass and even be excommunicated if he revealed what the man said when he confessed. He didn’t care. “This is getting better,” I thought.
The man at that point was pleading and perspiring, saying he couldn’t confess what was said in private; he had taken a vow and couldn’t break it, but that didn’t stop the priest. The wife was there and was confused over her husband’s reaction. The priest who was taken to court said he couldn’t sleep, eat, or function just thinking about what the man told him in confession. An older priest was trying to talk some sense telling him to think about the church, maybe there was another way to resolve the situation instead of divulging what was said and the man of course was desperate saying he couldn’t break what he vowed. I couldn’t believe how he kept saying, “Father, stop him, he can’t do that, stop him.” At that time the Judge was angry and said if someone’s life was in jeopardy then he needed to speak. Another priest from an Episcopal Church told the Roman Catholic Priest if he knew someone’s life was in danger, he had an obligation to God NOT the church.
The priest broke down and cried, he loved his job but he couldn’t keep silent about the grave sin that was being committed, he removed his white collar and said the man was molesting his nine year old daughter; he would molest her, go to confession and promise not to do it again but he kept doing it and confessed some more. He even told the priest how is daughter would perform oral sex on him. No amount of Hail Mary or the Lord’s Prayer was able to take away the sick and deviant behavior of that man.
The mother cried and couldn’t believe it; she went and started hitting her husband. The priest told her to ask her daughter, she would tell her everything, she would even describe the room he took her to when he molested her. The father had given the priest a description of a particular room in the house where he violated his daughter; the mother was devastated.
The Judge ordered the man to be detained and there would be further investigation as well as criminal charges. He was to have no contact with his daughter. The mother was to talk to her daughter about the situation and therapy would be given. She also wanted a divorce after she found out what he was doing.
For every good priest there are ten that are rotten. That older priest was trying to hide and not bring to light the behavior that was going on with a so called fine standing member of the church and what he was doing to his nine year old daughter. He preferred the priest keep quiet about something he found out during confession.
The good standing members of church think by confessing their sins all will be forgiven if they do what the priest says, yet they repeat their actions and continue going to church as if nothing happened. They know they can fornicate, abuse a child, hit their spouse, curse, neglect their children, party like crazy, and get drunk; if they confess all will be forgiven. I think that’s appalling. Hail Mary and the Lord’s Prayer can’t help a person that’s engaged in behavior that’s repeated again and again. The man who was confessing back and forth and continued to abuse his child was making a mockery of the priest and pretended to be righteous among others. It’s also unconscionable and hypocritical that another priest should try and save face for the church knowing someone is being hurt. In essence they’re being an accomplice to the crime.
“However, there exists a God in the Heavens who is a Revealer of secrets…” Daniel 2:28