What inspired you to write this book?
I keep a prayer journal. My closest and dearest mentor, who also happens to also be an elder at my church, suggested that I start writing one in college as a way to facilitate healing for some things in my life. I noticed that many of my entries to God, who I address as Daddy in my journal were about being single, dating questions, self-worth questions, identity questions, confidential chats about relationships I saw around me and so on. As I re-read some of the entries, I realized that God had answered many of my questions through scripture study, my pastors sermons, mentors advice, and the Holy Spirit’s guidance. I also realized that I had a treasure trove that other single woman could benefit from. So I decided to write a blog about some of the things I was talking to Daddy about. One day after praying about it, the blog became a book which is the devotional you see today.
How did you come up with the title?
Well, I happen to be a single black Christian woman who knows many single Christian women. It was also a spin off of a popular movie title by Tyler Perry. While the title does have “Black Christian Woman” in it, it is definitely not only for Black women. The topics featured are relevant to all women and every single lady can benefit from this read.
Is there a message in the devotional that you want readers to grasp?
Content and single are not mutually exclusive words or experiences! I want to let single women know that there is nothing wrong with them for being single. I hope this devotional will help them to embrace their season and fully receive what God has for them in this priceless time.
Are entries based on someone you know, or events in your own life?
Definitely. No names are used in the devotional except for the fictitious name of Boodro Whoodro and the Biblical prototype name Boaz… but the examples and anecdotes come from real life, the lives of my friends and mentors, and the lives lived out in the Bible. Some entries are ripped straight from my prayer journal after a heart to heart with Daddy God.
What books have most influenced your life most?
From the Bible: Revelation, Psalms, John, 1 John, 2 John, 3 John.
Any book by Brian Jacques (Redwall especially), C. S. Lewis, Tolkien, Tim LaHaye & Jerry B. Jenkins (Left Behind Series), Tim LaHaye and Bob Phillips.
What book are you reading now?
Every Single Woman’s Battle by Shannon Ethridge. Lady In Waiting by Jacki Kendall and Debby Jones. Closing the Window by Tim Chester. God Sex by Rob Bell.
What are your current projects?
I am doing research right now for another book for women. It’s about sexual purity, and breaking free from sexual addictions.
Can you share a little of your current work with us?
God does not promise to bring everyone a mate. Some women may stay single for life (not a curse!). The Bible actually calls singleness a gift, not a terminal disease as media and Hollywood would like you to believe. Yes, this means that if a single woman wants to honor God with her body, there’s a good chance that she will never have sex, or if she has had sex in the past, she will remain celibate for the rest of her life. I can hear all of the gasps and exclamations of horror now. Trust me, as a single woman, I’m holding my breath right along with you! Surely God wouldn’t ask anyone to do a thing like that! Would He? God does however assure us that He “know[s] the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome,” (Jeremiah 29:11 Amp). What does this mean for women who already are hooked on pleasure yet still single? What does this mean for the celibate woman? For many of us, never being able to have Godly sex in marriage sounds like a sentence to death! Pleasure has become a living thing that demands feeding in our lives. How does God’s “thoughts and plans, peace and hope” add up with what seems to be a denial of our very real and very strong sexual needs and desires?
Is there anything you find particularly challenging in your writing?
There are many things that can be challenging in my writing. The controversial/touchy topics (singleness, God’s word on sex, God honoring dating practices…) you don’t see those featured in your every day chick flick! Swimming against mainstream culture is tough, but straightening.
What was the hardest part of writing your book?
Deciding which parts of my conversation with God to exclude. I would ask Him before I wrote, “Daddy should I put this in or leave it out? Was this just for me or something all women need to hear?” I feel confident that God has guided me faithfully through this process.
Did you learn anything from writing your book and what was it?
As much as I was writing the devotional for other women, I was writing to myself. I’ve learned and been reminded of priceless lessons. Sometimes when I read over the devotional I’m surprised by what I find wondering where it all came from. That’s when I thank the Holy Spirit for His work in me. He’s the greatest Muse ever.
Do you have any advice for other writers?
Keep writing. Find friends who will read and give you feedback on your work. Stay true to what God has put in your heart, but listen to wise council. Be well read. And never give up hope!
Do you have anything specific that you want to say to your readers?
God has great plans for your life, single or no. He knows the thoughts He thinks about you. I hope the devotional encourages single women to go deeper with Him and explore just what those thoughts are.
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