Everyone is wrapped up in their own little world, that most cannot see past the tip of the own nose, many walk around thinking, “poor me”, which along is very disturbing, because if you cared you would make the changes from “poor me” to being concerned for others.
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We ask very simple questions everyday to some friends and co-workers, how are you? We all answer the same thing, fine. If a person goes into a long story, we become impatient, why because the answer here is who really cares anymore. It is a simple question which all we really want to hear is ok, end of story.
What ever happened to being genuinely concerned about a neighbors or friends? Remember the days when people asked about family, and really stopped because they were truly interested in how you were doing. If you want to be successful in life you have to learn to treat each and everybody as a person who, like you they have their own cross to carry and hurdles to get through.
It is because we all have hurdles to overcome; problems in our lives, we have become distracted from human nature and kindness. When we think about our own problems we become distracted from the being truly concerned about one another. When we truly take the time to listen, we find out that they have problems worse than our own. It is at that time we should be humbled that our cross to bear is not so heavy. While I may have a simple cold, others are suffering from asthma, and will continue to do so for their entire life. Other who suffer from minor arthritis, don’t realize that if it was Rheumatism-Arthritis, their life would be more difficult to tolerate, since the pain in never ending, and few patients find any relief from the many medicines out there.
So the next time someone asks you, how are you? Take a moment and think about it, before just nodding, mumbling while asking how they feel. Say hello and ask with conviction, “how they are feeling today?” and be prepared in case the feel the need to unload their “cross” whether it is a moment or two; show others you do care and be genuine about it, by paying attention and looking the person in the eye. That alone shows you care and you are interested, in what they have to say, or how they are truly feeling.